Hayley van Stenis

Personal Counsellor

About Me

I work with adults, adolescents, couples and families. With an eclectic training background, I will be able to adjust my approach, depending on your needs.  In my therapy, I walk alongside you, on your journey of personal growth. Together we work towards developing insight into your personal dynamic and the way you tend to interact with your surrounding. This insight provides you with the sense of choice, needed for you to be able to improve personal functioning, general wellbeing and clearer sense of purpose in life. My special areas of interest are addiction and trauma counselling.

Registered with ASCHP HC2017/190 Holistic Counsellor. Counsellor – Applied Psychology. Grad Dip Counselling (SACAP)

Languages : English and Afrikaans.

More information about counselling

I use the perspective that a client is a dynamic psychological-spiritual-physical-social living system. I honour the diversity of the human being and use an integrated approach within sessions, excluding psychotherapy, social work, medical work and occupational therapy. I will work with a variety of applicable modalities, coming alongside the client with compassion, non-judgment and open-mindedness. Together we work towards the client’s improved sense of well-being in work, personal or relational settings.

My scope of practice includes but is not limited to, providing support in interpersonal relationships, spiritual growth, marital relationships, parental relationships, health-related issues such as stress management, lifestyle management in prevention of chronic disease, victim empowerment, trauma debriefing, domestic violence, household planning, workplace adaption, risk-taking, management of anxiety and depression, substance abuse, support of vulnerable people, mental preparation for retirement and any other general problem that people encounter in day to day living.

The benefits of counselling

Counselling serves to assist individuals to improve their quality of life. Through the counselling process, you are able to better understand your thoughts and feelings, and possible wants, needs and goals. Exploring personal dynamics and behaviours leads to improved self-awareness. This, in turn, assists in a better understanding of how our surroundings affect us and the possible reason for our responses thereto. This understanding allows personal reflection, leading to realizable ways of overcoming life hurdles, by finding healthier ways of living and achieving our goals.

Should you develop personally concerning behaviours and emotions, or if you are faced with unpredicted life events, which lead to personal and interpersonal conflict, such as excessive anger, grief and bereavement, addiction, anxiety, crisis and trauma, counselling can assist you with the tools to better cope and work towards practical resolutions. With the intention of enhanced well-being.

Humans generally have a need to connect with others, which may lead to marriage and or relationship conflict. Relationships at the workplace may also cause difficulty for individuals. Counselling may assist with conflict resolution and communication skills, as well as a deeper understanding of self and how you interact with the world around you. Including, exploring healthier ways of interacting with others and yourself.

Marriage and relationship counselling may serve in assisting individuals in difficult times. Sometimes we just need an empathic ear, someone to talk to about our personal or relationship problems, allowing us to share around feelings and concerns, and possible ways to better express one’s self in this regard. In these situations, a neutral figure, the counsellor, may help couples recognise the problems in their relationship.

Modern living may be full or stress, crisis, loss and sometimes trauma. This may result in a variety of emotional, physical and mental processes, which can leave individuals feeling as if they are unable to cope with easy daily tasks. At these times, counselling may assist in regaining a feeling of well-being within your life.

Addiction affects more individuals than what we are generally aware. People suffering with the disease of addiction may present with obsessive, compulsive behaviours around chemicals and alcohol, including food, sex, gambling, work, shopping, exercising etc. I am able to assist the afflicted and their loved ones in the process of attempting to arrest and reform their lives.

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How We Work

Counselling can assist with any type of problem that a person feels is unmanagable, problematic or negative in his/her life by making use of various therapeutic interventions.

Benefits of counselling

Improved self-awareness
Stress management
Learn tools to better deal with life challenges
A safe, confidential space for you to talk and explore difficult emotions and feelings.
Counsellors are trained, not to give advice, but work with you to find personal insight and understanding of life challenges
Counsellors are trained to assess and work with a wide range of life challenges and behavioural difficulties
Gain the knowledge to make informed decisions related to your personal experiences
Improved confidence and self-esteem
Work on unwanted patterns of behaviour
Assist with work towards an improved sense of general well-being
Improve interpersonal relationships in and out of the workplace
Counsellors may identify possible psychopathologies for and then make the necessary referral
Through exploration and rationalisation of your thoughts and feelings, you gain a sense that you are not entirely alone with your problems

Examples of a few problem situations

Anxiety/ stress
Bullying (victim and perpetrator)
Discipline concerns
Low self-esteem
Social difficulties
Sibling rivalry
Family conflict
Life changes
Process addictions (eating disorders, sex, gaming, gambling, pornography)
Chemical addiction
Couples therapy
Conflict in and out of the workplace, due to poor interpersonal communication
Mood fluctuations
Emotional problems
Relationship problems
Sleeping problems
Problems at work
Stress, anxiety or panic attacks
Personality problems
Problems in the family or a with a work colleague
ADD/ ADHD and/or Autistic spectrum disorders
Having accidents often
Abuse of sleep medication